Bullying Awareness

One again I haven’t written in a long time but since I noticed everyone on Twitter today is speaking up against bullying I decided to share one of my stories. I have been picked on and judged for being different my whole life. In middle school I tried so hard to fit in that I stopped being myself sometimes and got mixed with the wrong crowd but even still bullying was never okay in my book.

In middle school there was one troublesome kid who picked on everyone, groped the girls and was an all around horrible person but no one ever dared to stand up to him. Sixth and Seventh grade I was lucky enough to have a good friend who would protect me from this bully. This friend always sat next to me on the bus and walked with me to and from. He never let this kid come close.

My eighth grade year my bodyguard friend left to high school and I was on my own and the delinquent kid decided to take advantage of my lack of protection. I was barely 5’0 tall in middle school and only weighed around 90lb, So I was an easy target and looked like I couldn’t defend myself. One day this kid started going at one of my friends and me. I don’t know what came over me that day that brought this action. Maybe it was all my personal family problems building up or maybe I had enough of being disrespected. When he went to grab my chest I reached out and hit him across the face, he stumbled back and didn’t move for a minute, my friend’s little sister screamed behind me where the bully’s friends had them cornered. I looked behind me to help them out and next thing I know I’m looking back at the boy and he punches me right in the eye. I slumped back against the bus window and blacked out. Eventually the bus driver noticed the screaming and then there was a police officer escorting us both off the bus.

In the principles office I iced my eye and started feeling the pounding pain while we were questioned by the officer and waited for our parents. Other than my two friends no one on the bus came forward to tell the principle what happened, none of the boys on the bus helped me. They all stayed quiet in fear. When my parents got there My mother hovered over me and started demanding answers, my father was using every ounce he had in him not to go after the boy. When his parents came in I could already see where his violent side came from he stiffened when his father walked in. His parents said nothing to me, they couldn’t careless. I don’t remember much else from the principle’s office my mother was hurrying because she wanted me to go get checked out at the hospital.

In the end we were BOTH suspended. My throwing the first punch had to be punished even though I was protecting myself against harassment. I was suspended for almost two weeks and this was the day before my birthday. I remember coming back to school and boys on the bus making fun of me because “I got knocked the fuck out”. The fact that no one helped, and the school shrugged it off so easily is what still upsets me to this day. Even if he may come from a “bad home & rough life” is not an excuse for violence and bullying. My family life has never exactly been perfect but even then I would never slump to that level.

I hate to think what kind of horrible things that kid is up to now. In all honesty I could only think bad things about him. Maybe I really did over react by hitting him but when it comes to fight or flight response my “fight” quickly kicks in especially during my middle schools years where I had a lot of pain and anger bottled up. Either way it should never get to this point. If you are being harmed in anyway speak up and get help.If your child is being bullied listen up and help them. Let the school and the bully’s parents know you will not stand for this!

This post came out longer than I expected but I just needed to rant and share my story. BTW I’m in no way saying “hey go beat up your bully, fight violence with violence” That approach did not work out for me. Also if YOUR child is the bully don’t make excuses for them, step in and be a parent. Get them help. There is no excuse.

Back to a busy schedule

Classes start tomorrow. My classes are at 9am MTWF. Also football season is about to start so we’re finally getting busy again at work. This all means back to me having a busy schedule and being productive. While I’m excited to have so much to do and keep me distracted I know I’ll be begging for a holiday soon enough. Here’s to getting that much closer to finishing school and working to pay bills & save up money. 

yay adult life.

VandalEyes!

Fall classes start next week which is exciting because it means back to keeping busy and that much closer to trying to finish college. I’ve been spending time with boyfriend and the pup which is nice. I’ve also been watching Warehouse 13 finally started reading Neverwhere! When I ordered Neverwhere on Amazon I decided to order Emergency Googly Eyes because? WHY NOT! I brought them to work with me and my coworkers got into the Vandaleyes spirit!

The lighting at work isn’t too great so pardon my picture quality.

A Coworker said this one might scare away customers. Depending on the customer... I'm OK with that.

A Coworker said this one might scare away customers. Depending on the customer… I’m OK with that.

How can you NOT want a Hopsecutioner after seeing this?

How can you NOT want a Hopsecutioner after seeing this?

Spare some change anyone?

Spare some change anyone?

Too much free time!

I recently discovered while I enjoying getting free time to get caught up with things and relax, too much free time makes me dog a little loopy. Summer classes ended the last week of July and work has been pretty slow(I only work weekend shift anyway) So I don’t know what to do with myself. I try to stay in to avoid spending any money. While I do always have new shows to watch and books to read I usually do those things at night since I stay up late anyway and don’t go out. During the day I try to find productive things to do but this no classes/ minimal work shifts thing is also making em pretty damn lazy. I would be horrible as a house wife. Husband at work and kids at school all day.. what the hell would I do. Clearly I will always need to work. No offense to other house wives. I just enjoy working. I got my first job at 15 and I would always get frustrated when I was in between jobs. Mostly because you can’t pay expenses without money. I’m really just looking forward to finishing college so I can get a better paying full time job.

Well I have been doing a lot of show watching. I recently finished Eureka and I just got in to season 2 of Warehouse 13. I enjoyed Eureka (Felicia Day &Wil Wheaton, How could I not like the show!) and so far Warehouse is pretty interesting. I need to keep my mind occupied while I wait for my other shows to start up again.

I’ve also been trying to get some more reading in. Sadly books are expensive so I try to take my time reading each book. I also juggle back and fourth between getting hard copy books and books for my Kindle Fire. While I do enjoy holding, smelling a real book and adding it to my bookshelf. Kindle books are much cheaper so sometimes it’s the best way to go so I can save a couple bucks. I occasionally have luck with Goodwill but last time I went they only had books I had already read or ones that did no interest me at all.

Recent books I read:

The Book Thief by Mark Zusak

The Girl Who Circumnavigated Fairyland in a Ship of Her Own Making (longest title ever!) by Catherynne M. Valenete

Anansi Boys by Neil Gaiman

Definitely enjoyed all 3 of them for their own reason. They were all very different. The next book I’m about to start is Neverwhere by Neil Gaiman. I’ve been wanting to read it for a while now so i’m excited. My to-read list is just so ridiculous picking my next book is always a huge battle but so far I have not been disappointed!

Now I’m off to take advantage of the sunny weather outside and go to the pool.

Supercon goods

One of the things I was looking forward to at Sueprcon was checking out Artist Alley. There were so many interesting artist which made it very hard to leave with only 4 pieces all 4 were between $10-$5. I didn’t buy any original sketches but might consider it next year.

I don’t own a camera *gasp* (I know who doesn’t own a camera these days pshh) so I took these with my phone. Hopefully once I find frames I like for them I’ll be able to take better pictures.

0707132102aI LOVE these little guys. These are by Michael Banks his website is Sugar Fueled There you’ll find links to his shops, and other social media pages. It was really hard to pick just 2 prints from him they all were amazing. My crappy cell phone doesn’t do them justice though. These were about $5 each and the original sketched were $20 and he had some bigger pieces too but I want to start a series of these little art cards. I’m thinking about putting these two next to each other in a floating frame.

0707132104aNest artist is Michael Duron. LocoDuck Studios I was debating between a beetle juice print and a Nightamre Before Christmas print but then I saw this one and jumped up and down! Still not sure how I want this one framed but I can’t wait to put them up.

0707132106For the life of me I CAN NOT remember the name of the artist. Which is sad because my boyfriend and I even had a conversation with him. He signed the print with black ink on the black border so I can’t make out his name :( He had some great pieces too.

My boyfriend bought 2 pieces from comic book artist Vinnie Tartamella but I wasn’t able to get pictures of them because we have them rolled up in a poster tube until we can put them somewhere safe or get them framed. I also bought a Deathly Hollows decal and a Doctor Who license plate frame. Luckily I stopped myself from spending anymore money!

My first Con

This Saturday my boyfriend and I attended Supercon here in Miami. It was the first Con & definitely won’t be the last. We both had an amazing time and will be attending annually. We got a later start on the day than we had hoped and didn’t get there until around 1 pm  but stayed until almost 3am! I know, madness! Parking and traffic was a disaster so we had to park a bit far which wouldn’t have been too bad if we had worn proper shoes. For some reason I was determined to wear my new gray converse instead of my running shoes. I yelled at myself for that the next morning.

After walking 10 minutes in the hot/humid Miami weather and finally making it into the convention center we stepped into HUGE crowds. This was slightly expected since we chose Saturday but it kind of felt too packed. My anxiety got to me a bit. The center was extremely hot due to all the people crammed into one space. The whole time you were plastered against someone trying to get around. Being that I’m only 5’0 ft my face was almost plastered against someone’s sweaty back countless time.  We had met up with 3 of our friends who were dragging us around to look for the rest of the group but luckily my boyfriend noticed I was getting a bit overwhelmed and annoyed with having to push and shove through hot sticky crowds so we both escaped upstairs to artist alley which luckily was MUCH less crowded. Artist alley was one of the main things I was looking forward to. Eventually the crowds started making their way upstairs too and the first floor became easier to maneuver.

We didn’t attend any signings or big pannels. We mostly just walked around checking out all the booths, costumes etc. At one point when our feet were screaming we decided to duck into a room where they were showing episodes from different British TV shows and we ended up watching parts of the first 2 episodes of Red Dwarf circa. 1988. They were also showing Torch Wood and other stuff but we didn’t want to spend the day sitting in a room watching shows. We didn’t go in with a plan of what exactly we wanted to see and do so we did miss some pretty cool things. Overall for it being our first Con adventure and not properly planning we still had an amazing time. Next year we’ll be going in with a plan and hopefully I’ll be cosplaying. I was bummed that I barely saw any Steampunk Cosplay. I saw one awesome Steampunk Bane but that was pretty much it. There was a good amount of Doctor Who cosplay and stuff to buy though. It definitely was more anime/manga influenced. I also didn’t charge my phone before we went so I didn’t get any pictures.

Right so future pointers for attending a CON:

1. Comfy shoes/clothes. Breathable clothes that you wont feel like you’re suffocating in. Possibly a light sweater because some of the smaller rooms might get a bit chilly. I never found these rooms while I was there but it’s a possibility.

2. A good messenger/canvas bag to carry things you buy or even possibel freebies.

3. Get there early to avoid parking disasters, long lines, and big crowds

4. Snacks and water bottles.(Luckily out friends had a cooler with Gatorade/soda in his car along with some snacks. We ended up all walking to his car to refuel on. It Definitely helped) Also food there is very overpriced so eat a good meal before and have a enough snacks to hold you off until you leave.

5. Park close. That way you can run to the car to drop off things you’re tired of carrying or to re stock on snacks.

6. Fully charged phone. To take lots of pictures and call/text the people you’re with if you get separated.

7. Carry travel size deodorant and/or body spray. You will sweat. Don’t punish everyone around you with your body odor. Hygiene is key.

8. If you get sick easily take something like Airborne before you go. Hand sanitizer is your friend too! Again, germs, small areas, rubbing up against random humans.

9. Make a plan before you go. Decide on what things you don’t want to miss and make note on the times they start so you’re not running all over the place trying to make it. Some events get packed QUICK so if you know it’s popular get there ahead of time.

This post feels too long so pictures of the art will be in a separate post.